Mark T. Palmer, PhD​

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Why Psychotherapy?

Why Psychology? Why visit a Psychotherapist? Here's My Answer...

I accept the idea that our lives are a continuous process of growth and discovery.  This is what  C.G. Jung called a process of "individuation" or a process of becoming the unique and whole person we each can be while at the same time feeling connected to the social and natural world around us. Finding our unique path to this goal means finding our unique Self, and in doing so we find our own strengths and abilities to meet and solve the problems that appear to block our way.

Every person starts psychotherapy at a different place and their needs and processes are also different.  My approach takes this into consideration and allows us to create individualized plans and processes. I am able to integrate any or all of the techniques I know (e.g., CBT, dream work, meditation, trauma work, EMDR, and more), but always centered on the individual person and solutions that fit them. This way, results are more likely to last and people leave therapy better able to deal with future problems and stay on their path.

Overtime, my psychotherapy practice has come to focus in several areas.

Men, who may have had difficulty in expressing their feelings and or have had problems in personal or work relationships.  The men have discovered a positive self-image, greater understanding of their feelings, deeper and more meaningful relationships, and greater control over their communication. Psychotherapy can help with anger management techniques, and relationship and couple's counseling. (Men's counseling and men's psychotherapy, men's issues)

Women, often find themselves questioning their personal and professional effectiveness and are looking for ways to discover and express their own individuality and identity.  Many have come to believe that their voices cannot or should not be heard. Psychotherapy can be a way of discovering one's own voice and learning to express it clearly, safely, and with positive results. (Women's counseling)

I have developed a focused approach for working with couples who are experiencing relational difficulties.  In our process, we learn to recognize key stressors and to acknowledge and manage the emotions that can often end up pushing partners away from one another.  A key component of relational repair is developing the ability to accurately communicate our feelings and needs, and to be able to perceive and acknowledge the feelings and needs in the other.  Ultimately, we can regain mutual respect, trust, and intimacy.  I look at relationships as two whole persons coming together to make a third thing that is the relationship. This means that we must know ourselves and what are our needs and expectations so that we can be at one time self-reliant and connected in mutual caring, trust, and support. (Couple's counseling, marriage counseling, relationship issues, couple's psychotherapy)

Life Transitions can be stressful and extremely disruptive.  Changes in our lives such as retirement, the end of a relationship, loss of a job, loss of a loved one, etc. can feel deviating and lead us to feel confused, directionless, and uncertain.  In therapy, we can re-connect with our own internal core values, regain a sense of who we are and our own self-worth. These discoveries can ground us, help us understand and put the disruptive events into perspective. Then a new and positive direction can emerge the fits who we truly are and helps us achieve what we truly need.

My Jungian orientation and personal experience with Jungian Analysis also opens my practice to anyone who is seeking greater meaning in their lives.  Some would call this a "spiritual" goal, and I would agree.  However, it is not a process that is a mystical experience outside of our every day lives but is an integral and natural part of it.  It is a process of realization of our true self that enriches and informs everything we do. This perspective invites us to go deeply into our conscious and unconscious and related to the sources of our feelings and beliefs.  Not every person who comes to therapy goes into this process, but it is available to any and all who want to discover the deeper complex layers of our psychology.

Happiness is not merely the result of solving one problem, but the result of sustaining and maintaining our ability to solve problems as they come.  From my perspective, I believe as we bring our conscious awareness to the deeper, unconscious processes of our psychologies we experience on-going and lasting growth and greater power to overcome any obstacle. (Spiritual counseling, spiritual growth, individuation, Jungian psychotherapy)